August 29, 2007

An anger management tip

It’s so easy to preach and so difficult to practice. Especially, when you are told to control your wrath and keep your cool in the most trying circumstances. More often than not, in the heat of an infuriating situation it is very difficult to even think of following any anger management steps. More so, when you feel that your anger is completely justified. The age-old advice “Count to 10 to control your temper” simply doesn’t work when you are held in the throes of anger.

If the other person is too angry to understand you and when a proper communication seems impossible at that point of time, it is better to leave the place or suggest to your adversary that you will discuss the problem later at some calmer hour. Both of you will feel less defensive/aggressive then and you might even be able to sort out your differences amicably.

Obviously all causes of anger or fights should not be ignored or dismissed. Ultimately, you have to decide for yourself whether that particular situation calls for such an action. Eventually all kinds of situations have to faced fearlessly and sorted out. Delaying or putting off things at a later date might not work always.


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  1. Anonymous9:40 AM

    Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.

  2. unknown9:07 AM

    "Everyone is going through their own form of suffering. If you can be sensitive to that, then life will be a lot easier to get through peaceably."

  3. Sarita9:11 AM

    In anger you should go to peaceful place and think the reason for your anger, i.e. think from both the sides (your side and one on whom you are angry).
    once you are calm then go out and enjoy by eating fast food and play play station.

  4. Anonymous9:14 AM

    First u need to sit and decide what is really causing the anger????
    somethings are out of Ur control
    and if the anger is coming from something that is out of Ur control.. u need to let it go..or get away from it
    if it is a job.. look for another one ..if it is a person.. then u could have what is called displaced anger..
    and it is not anger.. but anxiety..
    if it is anxiety.. then u need to go to counseling and find out why..??/ if it is cheating? then It is mostly likely Ur woman's interwision talking to u..
    and u are correct... about what u are thinking.. u just can't prove it.. so u continue to tolerate it..

  5. unknown10:09 AM

    Step back and think about why you are angry.Is there anything you can do to solve your problems?Are you doing things that cause you more problems?Are the things that make you angry beyond your control?
    You may have to accept that you can't control everything and that everything is not your fault

  6. Santosh9:11 AM

    rubber band wrap around hand when get anger hit rubber band

  7. Champa9:16 AM

    I have a lot of anger control issues too over very trivial matters and usually when that happens I do something to distract my thoughts; usually read, exercise, sometimes i just take a nap. I do yoga and the most important thing is to tell people your feelings and that will make a big difference like you're doing right now

  8. Babanand10:11 AM

    Praying for Others Seems to Help Anger Fade

  9. Anonymous10:13 AM

    anger is affecting your health or the quality of your life.People often turn to prayer when they're feeling negative emotions, including anger,"

  10. Rudra4:21 PM

    The best way to control anger is by doing exercising. A daily exercise routine can help you to release energy and emotions.

  11. I find the best way to control anger is to do constructive activities that will get your mind off what you were angry about. I have a few ways I go about doing this.

  12. Vikas9:17 AM

    Both Sheetali and Seetkari are effective in cooling the system down. Cooling is not just limited to the physical level alone. These practices calm the nerves down and also help calm the mind. Mental calmness can help deal with anger and anxiety.

  13. listen to calm music

  14. Pratibha11:06 AM

    Focus on to your breath and try to bring peace and calmness in to yourself.


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